Reflection on thought processes

the trick to keeping your sanity involves keeping your mind working actively.

There are many ways to think of the current turmoil I, and by extension my wife and family, are under at the moment, through that could be slightly overexaggerating it when compared to the plight of others.

One, is my gullibility and by extension by ability to correctly diagnose situations and   my judgment in people. The 'happy-happy' perspective, as elaborated by husnul-dzan concepts that I've used to good effect all these while are really truisms that need to be tested against the test of evidence and circumstance. Idealism should not be replaced with laziness to think and putting in the effort to adapt accordingly.

Two, there are thugs that we should be sensitive to, to have a zealousness to safeguard and protect our reputation and credulity. In most circumstance, when dealing with a close circle of family, friends and confidante, it's important not to let the ego become so bruised that a totally avoidable altercation happens. Berlapang dada starts when we trust our close circle. Trust. And although I could be espousing these concepts verbally, in actions is where it counts. 

Three, controlling personal feelings of helplessness, loneliness. it is important to control the narrative of our own life story - at least allow us the ability to dictate and decide our own circumstance and reality to the extent that where possible, that decision was made with clear understanding of implications. The victim mentality suits no-one except for manipulative leaders intent on getting the fight and the fire to respond to that instinct. In our own minds, the victim mentality must be managed to allow us to fight, within reasonable parameters of course, and motivate us to obtain what we truly want.

Four, nothing truly worthwhile is obtained in life by doing nothing and relying purely on hand-outs, empathy, sympathy and sychopantic dependence on others. Most worthwhile endeavors require vision, passion and the heedless determination to shape reality. Take Rasulullah. Take other great but in relation lesser achievements of military generals, political and business leaders. This is the essence of leadership. Without this special ingredient, we fail the test of life, and of living.